KAMA SUTRA and EPILOGUE
KAMA SUTRA and EPILOGUE: ILLICIT CONNECTION WITH A MARRIED
WOMAN
Traditionally, illicit relation with a married woman has been considered
immoral. But there are lot of examples that show such relations
have existed throughout history. Some experts believe that this
evil has come from Arabs. Usually, uncontrolled sexual urge in married
woman is the main driving force for such illicit relations. There
are however instances when considerate people deserted such women
who had even occupied their beds. In Mahabharat, during his stay
in heaven, Arjun rejected the sex-driven plea of Urvashi because
he knew that she was the mother of Chandravansha. As such, Urvashi
was like a great-great grandmother of Arjun. So, he turned down
her pleas for the sake of chastity. Thus, Kamasutra forbids such
illicit relations with women who are akin to mother, sister or daughter
even by distant relation. Otherwise, Kama
Sutra has no objection over having a physical relation with
a married woman provided that it is the woman who takes the initiative.
KAMA SUTRA and EPILOGUE: CONDUCT IN EXTRA-MARITAL AFFAIRS
All the men and women in a society appear more or less similar.
One cannot figure out those men or women who might have extra-marital
affairs or are prone to have such affairs. An acute observation
of the behaviour, such people can easily be recognized. Experts
opine that from figure and bodily postures, promiscuous women can
easily be recognized. Old ladies look for these symptoms to ascertain
the character of their would-be daughter-in-law. First of all, feet
of the woman are observed. If the finger adjoining the thumb is
longer than the thumb, if the middle finger is longer than the first
finger and the little finger does not touch the ground while walking,
such a woman might have a loose character.
Maharshi Vatsyayan says that almost every woman aspires a beautiful
male and feels drawn to him at first sight. The nature of males
is more or less similar. They too aspire pretty women and like to
have their company. Most of the women however manage to contain
their desires but a few, of loose character, see no evil in having
a casual but intimate relation with handsome males. Another category
of women show no interest at first. But with continuous and persisting
efforts and pursuing, they too submit their selves to the handsome
males. It is an inherent nature of males that they long for the
things, which are difficult to get. They like the wife of others
more than their own.
But whether one has an access to other married women or not, one
should avoid having illicit extra-marital relations. He should be
long-sighted enough to foresee the consequences of such an extra-marital
relation. More than often, a married woman is deserted by her husband
because she has some serious illness or is insane. Such a woman
would inevitably seek the company of other males. But the consequences
of such relations are always disastrous.
KAMA SUTRA and EPILOGUE: WOMEN OBTAINED WITHOUT EFFORTS
There is a whole range of women who submit before the sexual advances
of men without slightest resistance. One doesn't have to work hard
to get such women to his bed. This category of women includes those
who always stand on the entrance of their home, those who always
stand on the roof and look down into the lane, those who enjoy long
talks with their young neighbours, those who look intently into
the eyes of the men and look sideways when caught, those who hate
their husband or hated by their husband, independent spinsters,
those who stay with their parents, those who lost their children
immediately after birth and those who talk a lot. Apart from these
women, women of the gypsies, widows, poor women fond of pomp and
show, women who have many brothers-in-law are some other types who
are prone to develop extra-marital affairs easily. Those women whose
husbands are impotent, afflicted with serious disease, cowards,
hunchback, dwarf, ugly, and old also submit easily to the sexual
advances of other men.
KAMA SUTRA and EPILOGUE: PROTECTION OF WIFE
In the society, there is a complete horde of men who keep on lurking
around married women. Some men have addiction like weakness for
married women. It is therefore, the duty of every sensible man to
guard his wife against these prowling ‘nymphomaniacs'.
Ways to protect the wife: Appoint such member of the family who
is fully trustworthy and whose sexual urges have been successfully
tested to keep a watch on the wife. Test the character of wife through
some trustworthy old lady who has no self-interest.
Reasons for wife running amok: Getting permission from the husband
for independent behaviour, living in pressure, talking freely with
other men are some reasons that provoke a woman to seek company
of other men, despite living with husband. Alternatively, if the
husband has migrated out, a woman feels unsatisfied regarding her
physical requirements. In such situations, a lonely woman is more
prone to fall in the company of characterless women who open many
channels for her. Consumption of inebriating drinks and eatables,
company of bad men, wandering aimlessly, sleeping at wrong hours
and living in someone else's home are some other reasons that encourage
a married woman to develop extra-marital affairs.
Elaborating the causes and outcome of extra-marital affairs, Acharya
Vatsyayan says that with thorough knowledge of Kama
Sutra, a man can protect his wife from the leers of other men.
Extra-marital affairs always lead to destruction of religion and
wealth. Therefore, one should never apply any of the methods described
so far to win a married woman in his life. But he should know the
subtleties related to these affairs and accordingly protect his
wife.
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